I don't do anything special prior to sex, and you certainly don't have to! I know you want to, but I also think it's important to know that it isn't required and that your body isn't inherently unpleasant, so you may find you wish to place less emphasis on it.
I shower at most once a day, unless I have done something unusual that compels me to take a second shower, which happens rarely. I often skip a day. This has not impacted my sex life. :)
It's true that washing too much can cause some issues. For example, you can irritate your skin, upset the bacterial balance in your vagina, and generally stress yourself out by washing all the time. Vaginas are like ovens - they are self-cleaning. That doesn't mean you shouldn't shower or wash your vulva if you want, of course, but it does mean that it certainly doesn't have to become a full-time job in order to have partnered sex! And you may want to avoid washing inside the labia with anything but warm water and your fingers, because for many people, that throws off the good bacterial balance in the vagina and contributes to yeast and other problems.
I'm reading some nervousness in this post. If I'm reading that right and you are feeling nervous, that's totally normal! Besides the fact that beginning partnered sex is a big transition for many people, there is a LOT of societal pressure to be perfect and always smell like candy and never be anything less than fresh. But that's all kind of...not real. We're all human, and we don't always smell like candy. That's okay, and it's often even *sexy*. If you feel you are in a safe relationship where your partner will be supportive and loving towards you and your body as you transition into sexual activity, know that you can probably also feel safe letting some of the anxiety you feel about the smell and taste of your body go.
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I shower at most once a day, unless I have done something unusual that compels me to take a second shower, which happens rarely. I often skip a day. This has not impacted my sex life. :)
It's true that washing too much can cause some issues. For example, you can irritate your skin, upset the bacterial balance in your vagina, and generally stress yourself out by washing all the time. Vaginas are like ovens - they are self-cleaning. That doesn't mean you shouldn't shower or wash your vulva if you want, of course, but it does mean that it certainly doesn't have to become a full-time job in order to have partnered sex! And you may want to avoid washing inside the labia with anything but warm water and your fingers, because for many people, that throws off the good bacterial balance in the vagina and contributes to yeast and other problems.
I'm reading some nervousness in this post. If I'm reading that right and you are feeling nervous, that's totally normal! Besides the fact that beginning partnered sex is a big transition for many people, there is a LOT of societal pressure to be perfect and always smell like candy and never be anything less than fresh. But that's all kind of...not real. We're all human, and we don't always smell like candy. That's okay, and it's often even *sexy*. If you feel you are in a safe relationship where your partner will be supportive and loving towards you and your body as you transition into sexual activity, know that you can probably also feel safe letting some of the anxiety you feel about the smell and taste of your body go.