If it makes you feel better, I don't think I know anyone who showers twice a day. Even when I've lived in hot climates where everybody gets horribly sticky, I would consider twice a day unusual except for the occasional fancy dinner where people wanted to be extra shiny. It's generally unnecessary and I think anybody with realistic expectations of sex is aware that bodies smell and taste like bodies.
Reading the other comments, it seems like either you or your boyfriend expect your body to be like a movie where everything's rosy and amazing all of the time. That's not how bodies are and I imagine once you're familiar with your boyfriend's body you'll realise his isn't either :p
In terms of my 'routine', I have occasionally popped to the bathroom if we've been walking/dancing/had sex already to give things a go over with the shower head. I don't use any soaps or wipes on my vagina, just plain clean water in the shower. However when my boyfriend and I first slept together we had been walking a long while on a hot day and were both very sweaty and un-showered. Didn't put either of us off enough to run away and never return!
In terms of your pubic hair, do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Maintaining a completely shaved look is a lot of work and potential discomfort. If that's something that makes you feel good, then great! However, if it would be an effort purely to please your boyfriend, then do whatever you feel better with. If he mentions it, explain in great detail how much hard work/discomfort goes into those clean-shaven vulvae he sees in porn movies.
Your body isn't oozing foul smells or shameful dirt or anything like that, no more than anybody else (including your boyfriend!). I find that people who disparage female genitalia are the one's who want access but can't get any, or who are horribly sexist and undeserving of the privilege.
Try talking to your boyfriend about his attitude and comments, I'm sure he'll be horrified that he's made you self conscious about one of your body parts and the sexual element of your relationship.
Sorry about the novel I just wrote up there, I hope some part of it is helpful :)
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Reading the other comments, it seems like either you or your boyfriend expect your body to be like a movie where everything's rosy and amazing all of the time. That's not how bodies are and I imagine once you're familiar with your boyfriend's body you'll realise his isn't either :p
In terms of my 'routine', I have occasionally popped to the bathroom if we've been walking/dancing/had sex already to give things a go over with the shower head. I don't use any soaps or wipes on my vagina, just plain clean water in the shower. However when my boyfriend and I first slept together we had been walking a long while on a hot day and were both very sweaty and un-showered. Didn't put either of us off enough to run away and never return!
In terms of your pubic hair, do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Maintaining a completely shaved look is a lot of work and potential discomfort. If that's something that makes you feel good, then great! However, if it would be an effort purely to please your boyfriend, then do whatever you feel better with. If he mentions it, explain in great detail how much hard work/discomfort goes into those clean-shaven vulvae he sees in porn movies.
Your body isn't oozing foul smells or shameful dirt or anything like that, no more than anybody else (including your boyfriend!). I find that people who disparage female genitalia are the one's who want access but can't get any, or who are horribly sexist and undeserving of the privilege.
Try talking to your boyfriend about his attitude and comments, I'm sure he'll be horrified that he's made you self conscious about one of your body parts and the sexual element of your relationship.
Sorry about the novel I just wrote up there, I hope some part of it is helpful :)