My routine, for many years... At some point, I decided to start trimming the nether-fur -- partly to keep it from being in the way should spouse decide to head down that way, and partly because I was tired of cleaning the blood out. (I don't shower every day, either. Some people seem to have their periods stop when in the shower, but not meeeeeeeee! I don't really like dripping blood all over the bathroom floor.)
I would say, ask your partner what their preferences are. My spouse, after years of "whatever," eventually voiced the mild preference for minimal to no trimming! I may trim a bit closer when close to a period, to avoid that sticky mess, but eh, it's no big deal to me either way, and he likes it fluffy and soft. Ask your partner if they're sensitive to how freshly showered you are. (Remember that if they're heading down to give you oral, it is fine to have them start with a damp, warm washcloth -- it's a vulvar massage, too!)
I wouldn't use anything that's got a perfume in it, or a soap. Not only does it risk unbalancing your vaginal flora and sparking yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis, but the chemicals of a perfume may taste bitter! Plain water and a paper towel would probably be quicker and less risky, and cheaper!
I would not take two showers a day unless your partner has neurological issues that you are trying to be respectful of. There are people who are extremely sensitive to odors, and it's only kind to be respectful of that, but the vast majority of people who are attracted to vaginas like how a healthy, well-hydrated vagina smells and tastes. They don't want perfume, they don't expect roses, and if they're going to put their mouths down there, they want to taste vagina, not something that's been so washed that it tastes like "elbow" or chemicals or soap.
Heck, my spouse has headed down there at times when, er, I'd kind've liked to've done a paper-towel-and-water wipe, and he's not had any issues! (Mind, I've headed down on him times when he's been a bit whiffier, but hand-playing with things till they air out has always worked for me. I like the anatomy in question, quite enough to put up with minor lack of "freshness"; if I wanted to suck on a sterile Ken doll, I'd buy one at the toy store.)
For ways to alter your taste? Dehydration can intensify the natural odor, and some foods can create a bitter taste. Pineapple is one of the "tasty" fruits, and cinnamon cereal can be noticed! Smoking can create a taste that non-smokers may find off-putting. Asparagus is reputedly prone to making one's taste more bitter.
So... Don't stress out. Ask your partner if she/he/zie/they has any preferences. Remember that if your skin or vagina get stressed out trying to meet any preferences, you get to say, "This is too much trouble. We need a compromise." It is, after all, your body, and your partner should be respectful of that!
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I would say, ask your partner what their preferences are. My spouse, after years of "whatever," eventually voiced the mild preference for minimal to no trimming! I may trim a bit closer when close to a period, to avoid that sticky mess, but eh, it's no big deal to me either way, and he likes it fluffy and soft. Ask your partner if they're sensitive to how freshly showered you are. (Remember that if they're heading down to give you oral, it is fine to have them start with a damp, warm washcloth -- it's a vulvar massage, too!)
I wouldn't use anything that's got a perfume in it, or a soap. Not only does it risk unbalancing your vaginal flora and sparking yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis, but the chemicals of a perfume may taste bitter! Plain water and a paper towel would probably be quicker and less risky, and cheaper!
I would not take two showers a day unless your partner has neurological issues that you are trying to be respectful of. There are people who are extremely sensitive to odors, and it's only kind to be respectful of that, but the vast majority of people who are attracted to vaginas like how a healthy, well-hydrated vagina smells and tastes. They don't want perfume, they don't expect roses, and if they're going to put their mouths down there, they want to taste vagina, not something that's been so washed that it tastes like "elbow" or chemicals or soap.
Heck, my spouse has headed down there at times when, er, I'd kind've liked to've done a paper-towel-and-water wipe, and he's not had any issues! (Mind, I've headed down on him times when he's been a bit whiffier, but hand-playing with things till they air out has always worked for me. I like the anatomy in question, quite enough to put up with minor lack of "freshness"; if I wanted to suck on a sterile Ken doll, I'd buy one at the toy store.)
For ways to alter your taste? Dehydration can intensify the natural odor, and some foods can create a bitter taste. Pineapple is one of the "tasty" fruits, and cinnamon cereal can be noticed! Smoking can create a taste that non-smokers may find off-putting. Asparagus is reputedly prone to making one's taste more bitter.
So... Don't stress out. Ask your partner if she/he/zie/they has any preferences. Remember that if your skin or vagina get stressed out trying to meet any preferences, you get to say, "This is too much trouble. We need a compromise." It is, after all, your body, and your partner should be respectful of that!