"If you feel stifled by your partner's need for reassurance", Yes thank you, this is exaclty it. It's like his need for reassurance trumps my need to get what I need out of the experience. I will try using compliments and the "it would be hot if x" to see if any results come of it.

"If you have a FWB or a one night stand, it might be easier to open up because you don't necessarily have to see that person again. They mean less to you emotionally"
- good point. Why worry so much about what they think? I'm not daing them for life :)