MANY women find it difficult to climax via PIV sex. its not just you. :)
sometimes the problem isnt "oh, he didnt do this, or that, or the other so i didnt climax" but "there wasnt enough excitement built through foreplay so i didnt climax". and if you didnt get there through foreplay and PIV sex? AFTERplay. there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying "i didnt get there, can you use your fingers?"
you are responsible to speak up if your needs arent being met. there are very few mind-readers, and generally those who seem like they are? have been with you in a long-term relationship and *know* what trips your triggers. or is just good enough at reading your body language to see what makes you quiver. :)
if you ask and he brushes you off? i'd say decline a repeat performance. there's no excuse for being a lazy lover if you're asked for something that isnt hard to do. (i'm not talking about refusing things that squick you out or you just have absolutely no desire ever to do. trying real hard to get your partner off in ways that they know works doesnt fall under that definition.)
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sometimes the problem isnt "oh, he didnt do this, or that, or the other so i didnt climax" but "there wasnt enough excitement built through foreplay so i didnt climax". and if you didnt get there through foreplay and PIV sex? AFTERplay. there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying "i didnt get there, can you use your fingers?"
you are responsible to speak up if your needs arent being met. there are very few mind-readers, and generally those who seem like they are? have been with you in a long-term relationship and *know* what trips your triggers. or is just good enough at reading your body language to see what makes you quiver. :)
if you ask and he brushes you off? i'd say decline a repeat performance. there's no excuse for being a lazy lover if you're asked for something that isnt hard to do. (i'm not talking about refusing things that squick you out or you just have absolutely no desire ever to do. trying real hard to get your partner off in ways that they know works doesnt fall under that definition.)