I identify both as bi and queer. I go through phases where I am more or less attracted to one gender or another. I am also polyamorous. I came out as bi and poly to my parents at the same time, with my (now ex for lots of other reasons) husband. I am currently in a committed, long term, non-monogamous relationship with another woman, and have some occasional flings with men. I first tried talking to my mom about it at 16 and was kind of shot down. When I came out, I think there was a lot of denial, and I still think they hope I'll meet the "right guy" and settle down into a monogamous marriage.

As for friends: all my real-life friends know. Anyone who is on my LJ knows. Nobody at work knows.