Yeah...I think I agree with a lot of that. I find the book helpful in pointing out ways that adopted children MAY struggle. But to say that everyone who is adopted will struggle in those ways, or to say that to be adopted is to necessarily have a poor attachment style or is non-whole or something is inaccurate and just dumb really. I also got the sense that it was written by a primal wound fan (also by an adoptee, according to the book jacket). Shoot, I'm not adopted, and I'm definitely still learning about my attachment style and how/why that has developed in me....and also really recognizing through talking to others that some people are just inherently prone to secure attachment while others are not. To disrespect that variability is really damaging.

And I'm sorry you had a shit therapist. I feel like that's a danger with so many topics (e.g. past abuse)...it's such a line between looking for possible connections, and making assumptions about what's important or pushing too far into territory that isn't ready to be pushed into.