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archangelbeth ([personal profile] archangelbeth) wrote in [community profile] vaginapagina 2010-05-29 06:14 pm (UTC)

That was the point where he should have called a ride for you, if he had been a decent person.

It is possible that if you talked to other people he's flirted with, you will hear similar stories; the predator theory is that people like this do this deliberately, and will repeat the offense. So... don't feel you always have to remain silent, even if you choose to be silent now. (Or that you will have to speak out later, if you don't feel it will help.) But, well, your first priority is taking care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Later is for later.

Yes, a predator will probably claim it was all consenting. But he's a lying liar who lies, and even if he's lying to himself as well, he's still not allowed to define your reality of this. Please don't internalize the "story" that he'd like to tell; it's one way that predators silence people, by confusing the person they've wronged into thinking "well, it wasn't really wrong."

*hugs so much*

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