Sometimes the ring will be a bit high, and takes a second or two longer to get out than usual (and then I'm all "well, I guess we didn't really have to take it out that time" lol) but it's really easy. We actually kinda work it into the foreplay, since he'll just slip a finger in there and pull it out - I barely notice it at all. But yeah, you pretty much just hook a finger around it and pull (sometimes nails can be painful, but aren't they usually?). Putting it back in is even easier - you just squish it together and put it up there. I rarely ever have to push it up, because it gets sucked up there lol.

What kind of soap are you using when you're in the shower? Maybe that is having a hand in your infections? Other than that, I'm at a loss!