well, I have it. If he has an outbreak that can give you an outbreak. It sounds to me like he may have had a sore when you had sex. I have never had sores that deep before. It must have been awful for you, I am so sorry! The very first outbreak is the WORST. If this was your first one the next should not be so bad. Try taking L lysine it can ward off an outbreak. You can spread herpes w/o even having an outbreak. It's called shedding. You need to let any partner you have know you have the virus. http://www.herpes.com/ you might want to read up on it. About 20% of the population has it.