I'm kind of with evr1bugsme on this one. If it's very early in the relationship... again, all things being equal? It would depend, if they say, oh, I had one minor/possible outbreak 5 years ago, but I haven't noticed anything since, that's different than "I have constant outbreaks and am in serious discomfort a lot". It's not just fear of infection, it's also a factor that's going to impact our sex life at that point.