If honesty ruins a relationship, then the relationship sucked anyway.
Agreed, at least in terms of the specific scenarios here. I tend to think that the more any given individual learns about HSV, the greater the tendency for that person to consider the virus an irritating nuisance instead of EW, SCARY, THE WORST THING EVAR!!! Because of that, I think as long as a partner is willing to become educated about HSV, odds favor the couple being able to deal with it.
And I can understand an initial EW GROSS NO! reaction, especially if it came from someone who didn't really understand herpes, but if someone stayed with that kind of reaction... Well, I don't think "refusal to learn," to put it more or less bluntly, is a character trait that's compatible with who I am. If that's what ruined a relationship for me, I'd have to question whether it was a relationship worth keeping anyway.
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Agreed, at least in terms of the specific scenarios here. I tend to think that the more any given individual learns about HSV, the greater the tendency for that person to consider the virus an irritating nuisance instead of EW, SCARY, THE WORST THING EVAR!!! Because of that, I think as long as a partner is willing to become educated about HSV, odds favor the couple being able to deal with it.
And I can understand an initial EW GROSS NO! reaction, especially if it came from someone who didn't really understand herpes, but if someone stayed with that kind of reaction... Well, I don't think "refusal to learn," to put it more or less bluntly, is a character trait that's compatible with who I am. If that's what ruined a relationship for me, I'd have to question whether it was a relationship worth keeping anyway.